spiritual time out. that's what i refer to when i want to say something i shouldn't. more often than not, i should remember what my grandma would say: "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all." now when i have these thoughts i don't feel so alone, because i found this ecard company online today called someecards.
the people at someecards feel this way as well. they recognize that sometimes you need to say these things... you know, like "Get your shit together.", "I have no doubt you'll settle for the right person." or "It appears that your maintenance level is rising.". they don't always have to be "not nice" sentiments that you want to get across, just truthful, encouraging thoughts you just don't or didn't know how to break.
there are so many cards to choose from, and they're all free! so when you lose your job, you have no money and all you have left is a bitter, frightened cry for help there is the perfect card for you.
my gram always told me to send a card. she'd be proud.